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10-12-2019 07:20 PM
10-12-2019 07:20 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Hi @Sophie1 Yes I do try to find positive ways to release or deal with anxiety.
Although in my work situation (supporting people with challenging behaviours) - staff are not supportive of each other, despite the anxiety-provoking nature of our work (& demands on us).
So we are more or less forced to "keep a stiff upper lip", & pretend that "nothing is a problem" & that we're not anxious.
I find talking to someone who is supportive & understanding (if I can find someone) is helpful - relieves anxiety.
Plus yoga classes, sometimes some nice soothing music.
Drinking tea helps me too.
Adge
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11-12-2019 05:31 PM
11-12-2019 05:31 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
hello @Adge , @Sophie1 , @greenpea , @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @Determined , @Smc , @Owlunar , @Appleblossom
have a question ?
mr shaz come up with ideas , and then nothing happens , even with my encouragement it falls flat
like this afternoon mr shaz said " we should go over and take fish and chips and have dinner with MIL and SIL
I said " great idea " , lets ring and go ---- no nothing happened yet
so i texted my SIL , but no reply back
so i said , how about ringing mum about it -- no
this happens all the time
it is like going somewhere and on the way home mr shaz says " ohh we should of done this "
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11-12-2019 05:46 PM
11-12-2019 05:46 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Following through is often the issue @Shaz51
Any social situation is a product of all the individuals, not just one.
Take Care of you too Bella.
Cant make the others want to play happy all the time. I have tried that often enough and it becomes me doing all the work.
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11-12-2019 05:51 PM
11-12-2019 05:51 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
i knew you would understand my @Appleblossom
and yes in the end we do all the work and that`s it
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11-12-2019 06:30 PM
11-12-2019 06:30 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Similar but different - because Mr Darcy suggests so very few things, I do try and follow through on as many as I can. There is still so little that seems to bring him joy and getting out the house is beneficial for both of us. However, if I suggest something, he often takes it as gospel and expects it to happen, he sometimes goes ahead and arranges things before talking to me and confirming that we are both on the same wavelength about things.
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11-12-2019 07:03 PM
11-12-2019 07:03 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
if I suggest something, he often takes it as gospel and expects it to happen,, yes same here @Former-Member
he sometimes goes ahead and arranges things before talking to me and confirming that we are both on the same wavelength about things.-- yes, but only with certain things he will do this
then sometimes I suggest things and he will respond with a NO
but not a lot
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21-12-2019 05:21 PM
21-12-2019 05:21 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
What's happening @Shaz51 ?
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21-12-2019 05:26 PM
21-12-2019 05:26 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Hello @Former-Member how are you and Mr shaz`s twin mr @Former-Member going
this morning it rained
then we mowed 3 lawns in between showers
and me going to the shops before 12 o`clock
told mum`s washing to her , and put them away and my aunty was there too
home by 1pm and relaxing watching tv
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21-12-2019 05:34 PM
21-12-2019 05:34 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Quiet morning here @Shaz51 we walked into town to to a charity 2nd hand bookshop that we only heard about last weekend that is only open for a few hours a week. Picked up a novel so have been doing some reading. We did take the dog out but she would not go far at all.
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21-12-2019 05:41 PM
21-12-2019 05:41 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Picked up a novel so have been doing some reading.--- sounds good @Former-Member
We did take the dog out but she would not go far at all.--- she had enough ayyy , did you have to carry her back home xxxx
my MIL had a full checkup the other day and the doctor is worried about her kidney
i think I will need to change something my legs hurts soooo much