Starting over

[Sadness2015]

@ENKELI @Dreamy @Jynx and Leanne apologies you aren't coming up in dropbox (so hopefully you read this as well).

Have any of you managed to continue with your life since your 'crisis' and dealing with this 'life'?  I just don't know how to move forward - since my workplace accident and worsening health issues in the past two years - I feel like now my life has not just completely stopped - but moved backwards ....  I just feel like my grief is overwhelming, which is not good at the moment. 

[SmilingGecko]

Hello @Sadness2015 I have a few things to suggest to you to manage your grief which I use myself.

I tend to focus on body/mind techniques 

You can do something like tracing your lung meridians using your hands.

Your hands are electromagnetic and if you trace your lung meridians you will feel like the blockage is opening and it will help you process the grief better. This comes from Traditional Chinese Medicine.

You start below your clavicle and trace down your arm towards your thumb ending at the side of the nail with your hand. You do this on both sides of the body. 

You can see demonstrations online or watch on you tube:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KhcwKqD1Qm4

Another thing I do is the 6 Healing Sounds from Medical Qigong which helps release energetic blockages in the organ system of the body. I have found it highly effective for releasing stored up emotions in the body like grief which are held in the lungs

https://mychyp.org/post/the-six-healing-sounds/

Finally there are nourishing foods that you can use for the lungs. The esoteric color of the lungs is white so white colored foods are beneficial but also foods that are pungent.

Just by focussing on the characteristics of foods I eat I am able to make noticeable shifts with my emotional and physical health.

I was a bit doubtful when I was first introduced to this concept but it really made striking changes to my health and emotional profile. 

I've just done a quick search and came up with these foods which are beneficial for the lungs 

Below is a list of foods that are beneficial for the lungs. Since these foods strengthen the lungs, eating them will give the lungs the energy they need to help you to move through your grief more quickly.

The flavour of the lung is pungent, so foods that are the most nourishing to the lungs are considered pungent in TCM.

~ Garlic
~ Sweet potato
~ Ginger
~ Onion
~ Cabbage
~ Pears
~ Walnuts
~ Black pepper
~ Radish
~ Rice
~ Chili
~ Cinnamon
~ Cardamom
~ Leek
~ Miso
~ Navy Beans
~ Soy Beans
~ Almonds
~ Asparagus
~ Broccoli
~ Cucumber
~ Celery
~ Mustard Greens
~ Apricot
~ Banana
~ Eggs

I dont know if this appeals to you or not but I was able to make significant inroads to what emotions I was storing in the body, how to build organ strength and how to unblock the meridians for wellbeing ❤️ 

[Sadness2015]

@SmilingGecko  - thank you for your detailed post .... not sure if this would work for me (I am very much a black and white person the way I see things) - also in the last year my body has started rejecting food etc, could not even tolerate a liquid diet while in hospital - my organs are shutting down essentially... I have had 2 surgeries in the past six weeks and they have found out what is wrong - but don't think they can help much ..... the chronic stress and ptsd that I have dealt with for the past 10 years has not only damaged my health mentally, but also physically.... I have attended many different types of workshops in the past few years - nothing has worked - my brain just can't switch off, even for a minute, so I also have developed insomnia... 

[Sadness2015]

@ENKELI - could you maybe send me the Christian forum link .... is it on here as well....

I honestly don't know if I have any faith left - but maybe worth a shot chatting to others that might feel the same way.

[SmilingGecko]

@Sadness2015 sorry to hear about your plight, you sound extremely ill you poor thing and are suffering emotionally.

When I was younger everything was black and white and not subtle, the subtleties can create profound change if we are able to relinquish our mental constructs.

That usually comes with maturity and life experience though

I dont care what has happened with your husband and kids nor the reasons why. None of your congregation has led a blameless life. You deserve to be held with love and care.  As my mature self being 56 yo now I have 100% faith. I have no doubt in my mind.

I usually pray for people each night before I go to sleep. Your body may not be strong but your spirit can be. God can give us strength through difficult times, no matter how hard things can be.

I know as I was bedridden for 8 years with mystery illnesses the medical profession could not cure and trapped in a bad relationship.

I dont have people in my life anymore but I tend to prefer my solitude after seeing so many things masquerading as friendship and love.

You can always find support here. The people are caring and interested. Its not the same as in real life but we have all walked the path, in many instances - alone.

Please let me know how I can pray for you. Prayer is always answered. Even Caroline Myss said so.

She wrote a whole book about it and shes a modern day medical intuitive.

Try and get some rest this afternoon, you have put yourself out here and you must be tired. It takes a lot of energy to present yourself to a group when you are ill.

Take care, lovely

[Jynx]

Oh @ENKELI hun... I am so, so sorry for your loss. May the Light find you and warm you through these dark days. Condolences for you and your family 💜

@Sadness2015 you can find the Christian Chat here 😊

[Sadness2015]

@SmilingGecko - thank you for your caring and thoughtful post.... I had my children really late in life (as I had fertility issues), people just assume that I am younger  - I am actually age 58.

The holiday period, especially over Christmas/New Year is just the toughest and loneliest period for me .... I think that I have got it together and then it all falls to pieces again in November .....  but dealing with all my medical issues and surgeries the last few weeks has taken up every ounce of energy that I had to spare. 

It is just tough to continue to have faith when Christian people are the first to judge you and the harshest of judges overall - sad, but especially true in my situation. 

[Sadness2015]

@Jynx  - thanks for that link to Christian Chat ..... since I am new and still trying to figure out how this site works .... is there a shortcut I need to use to get there or to save on my page to get there easier when I need to chat with other Christians. Your assistance would be much appreciated. 

[Jynx]

Of course @Sadness2015 😊

There's two main options - you can 'Favourite' a thread, which saves it to your list of Favourites so you can come back to it any time - your favourites list should be visible as a list on the right side of the main page, or can be accessed by hovering over your profile pic at the right hand side of the blue box at the top of each page, and then clicking 'My Profile'.

To Favourite the thread, head to the top of the page of the Christian Chat thread, and click the star symbol. It should turn pink!

Second option is to 'Subscribe' - this way, you will receive a notification every time someone posts in the thread, regardless of whether you're tagged or not. 

To subscribe, head to the top of the page of the Christian Chat thread, and click the three dots next to the star. From the drop down menu, click 'Subscribe'. If the notifications become overwhelming at any point, you can unsubscribe in the same way. You can also Favourite the thread from this drop down menu. 

Hope that pile of word-salad isn't too confusing! Haha 😋

[SmilingGecko]

@Sadness2015 yes it is difficult dealing with people who have not walked through extreme hardship themselves. Many of these people like their comfortable pew! It takes life experience and some measure of knowledge to arrive at a point where people drop these estimations allow people to just be. The churches like the Uniting or more Evangelical expressions of faith seem to be more attuned to social justice and inclusion.

You are right about xmas holidays - its the worst time of the year. Even in families where theres happy celebrations it will still bring things up for people however small. I just celebrate on my own. My friends and family are deceased and have not met new people since I left my partner.

They usually put up a xmas thread here on SANE for anyone who is doing it tough around the holiday season. My friend used to have xmas gatherings in the park for divorcees and broken families when it was stigmatised to be divorced in the 1970's.

All in all I think xmas should be permanently banned which would be a wonderful benevolent act! lol