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[Former-Member]

@LOVELUKE

[PeppiPatty]

1. Start with your needs first

2. Schedule it

3. Priortise 

4. Be assertive about setting your boundaries

5. Focus on little and often

**See this article for more information

Got any other ideas? Tell us what you do? 

So @CherryBomb writes about self care......

I'm trying to self care lately.......

It's great to see you @Former-Member my special friend @Shaz51 @Determined @outlander

I havent self cared well this week. We are going to Relationships Australia on Monday and thats what Ill be talking about.....

[outlander]

Thanks for the tips @PeppiPatty
Good luck for your appointment on monday ❤

[Shaz51]

will be thinking of you and  your appointment on monday my special friend @PeppiPatty xoxo

[PeppiPatty]

Dearest @outlander @Shaz51

I just think that we have the best Relationship councillor in the world.....who would expect to see a wonderful councellor in a place where you always feel....there are a lot of ragged clients and then......there's me and Mr G turning up for tips on our relationship.

Of course, when I got there: all my things I wanted to talk about fell out of the window....

Mr G could'nt come because of his knee....  he is very scared that he would hit it or hurt it so we had him on skype.

I began by talking about the difficulties of him working out what intamacy means for us.....

then I discussed what my Sister in law did to me over the weekend. 

Wow, Mr G joined in and we really knuckled it out so I didnt bring in my personal problems into my role of being Mr G's carer.

We also discussed what Mr G needed to take heed of which is always caring for me......we spent about 10 minutes of our time doing that. We spoke of what I needed to do to self care. It was from having a little cat nap to a nice smoothie to going out for a little walk or just doing some artwork. 

What the councellor and Mr G said about my Sister in Law is not to ENGAGE. 

Just.........DON'T ENGAGE. 

Just.....let it go. Act as if nothing happened and don't give the problem oxygen. More to come.....

[outlander]

im glad things are working out for you @PeppiPatty

hopefully you can work out your intimacy issues and your sister in law as well. hoping mr G gets better soon too. please make sure you take care of yourself as well, your just as important

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @outlander

Thank you, I needed to hear that. 

I had Silver chain over this morning and she vaccuumed our home very thoroughly and dusted....thankfully :0) 

The Silver Chain office rang about me getting some more support for cleaning and social support for meditation. 

Thank you again, all support form you is very appreciated.....Mr G is good that he goes to Relationships Australia ...he always goes funny about two days before his Depo needle...poor man......

[outlander]

im glad your cleaner is doing a thorough job esp now its spring so the dust and pollen that gets stuck inside can make us very sneezy! @PeppiPatty 

have you thought about going to a local meditaion group? is that what you mean by social support?

aww poor man, yeah i wouldnt be very happy about getting that needle either!

[Shaz51]

@outlander, @PeppiPatty, @Former-Member, @Determined

[PeppiPatty]

You are right @outlander......The Psych hospital that we are connected with are doing an awesome job...we have a good case manager and Psychiatrist...it makes days easier....

Social support is with Silver Chain, a carers agency in Western Australia. It means that a carer comes to my place for an hour for one week and one and a half hour the next week. We have decided to meditate: She now takes me to a cafe and buys me a yummy milkshake and we listen to Jon Kabat Zinn for all the time we can. We sit in her new car......We have been doing this for over a year. about 18 months...

 https://youtu.be/u4gZgnCy5ew